I haven’t felt like writing in a long time. Have not made space for writing – willingly, lazily (?) but definitely by choice.
It’s a newly found freedom: Going with the flow, taking in every moment of life – rich or poor, gorgeous or sad and ugly as it comes.
I still get that rush of newness, the satisfaction of curiosity that makes you want to take in as much as you can – so I read, watch, listen and play. And therefore, I keep on learning.
I also don’t do a lot of things I used to do:-) It’s a choice.
But one thing I still do – and I always will:
I will not hesitate once I decide I want to do something.
Why Hesitate indeed?
Life never waits for you. You either make it or you don’t. Deal with it and rest later – maybe. But, as you are faced with a whole new reality and as you adjust to a life that’s always changing, just give it a try!
All we need is a little bit of space so we can make a clear decision: “Do I want to nurture this or do I want to let it go?
We don’t always need — or want — director’s commentary when we watch the movie of life. Sometimes we need to just be there in the moment. So, just give yourself space to be…
Lobsters? Who cares? Comfort zone? Maybe. But what does the one have to do with the other?
Yet.. wisdom can come from unexpected places in totally unsuspecting moments. And it’s not that we don’t know about our comfort zones and how we need to get out of them in order to create, move, innovate, experience excitement, and just learn to be even more resilient and strong.
“…If we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity.” So, watch the Rabbi in his articulate and wise way, and do it like the lobsters do. 🙂
I’ve been mentoring someone -let’s call him George – and he was simply scared. All I did was ask questions and listen.
I slowly helped him peel back the artificial wrappings of a box of rotten candy – and the metaphor has nothing to do with Forrest Gump. He had the courage to look straight into the mirror and clear the fog that obscured his own image. He took a stance and made a decision: to stop being (and feeling) afraid of what others might say or think about him; to be honest and honor his integrity and professional standards.
Yes, it is as simple as it sounds: Think through the consequences of how certain actions might impact a situation, see the options, potential and possible outcomes and decide. In the end it always comes down to only two questions:
- Can anything happen if you do nothing?
- What do you have to lose?
So, this guy said that as he was talking to his boss, he could hear my voice in his head, and he was imagining me guiding him. I smiled when I heard that. “Challenge for thought, support for action.” I had nothing to do with what he chose to say and do. He simply felt comforted by thinking I was there to guide him. He did it all alone – I was nowhere near him.
In the end, it’s only human to feel the need to have a friend, an advocate, a supporter. As long as this idea does not make you need permanent crutches and it only serves as the training wheels on the brand new bike when you are only three, it’s OK.
So, here’s to you, George and congratulations for being bold and brave to do what you really wanted to do.
Why bother? (Or don’t have to because…)
- My boss loves me…
- I make enough money…
- I feel comfortable where I am…
- It’s hard looking for something new…
- My wife is a doctor…
- My dad is a lawyer…
- I am too old to bother…
- I am too smart and I am OK for now…
- I am too smart to waste time looking…
Really? What’s your excuse?
Life’s a basket full of experiences, challenges, new ideas, feelings, rainbows after the rain and skies that open up to new possibilities.
So, get out your painting brushes, materials, colors, papers, feelings, thoughts, ideas, frustrations, words, and anything else you feel you need – and think of Michelangelo. Be a Michelangelo and start dealing with whatever it is you need to solve.
And, if you really want a kick in the rear end to get you started, do something simple. Go to your inspiration library and pull the story of someone whose life was/is harder than yours. Be humbled, see what they went through and how they overcame. And if you don’t have a library – maybe it’s time to start putting together your very own and personal inspiration collection.
And if you don’t have anything right off the bat, borrow some of mine:
Just don’t sit on your excuses!
Success or Failure OR Success and Failure?
The two go hand in hand. Highly unlikely you’ll succeed without failing often, regularly, repeatedly – and for the super humans out there rarely. And what is success without failure really?
Just watch The School of Life short video:
And regardless of what’s your definition, occasionally the hard battle to succeed is still not enough…
And it still hasn’t worked…in spite of all your efforts.
You feel you cannot not do it again – to try to succeed again, as tiring and unfair as it seems.
And failing is just one option before the end-game of your own definition of success. As Seth Godin wrote recently “Best work followed by best work followed by more best work is far more useful and generous than merely doing your best work once and insisting it is only fair that you eventually win.”
We’ve been taught that failure is the closest to a dirty word. It’s one of these rare concepts that by itself it’s categorized by its opposite: success. And if you want to be successful, you can’t possibly want to fail. But hold on a second! How can you possibly know what success is all about until you’ve actually tried again and again and yet one more time to make whatever it is you are trying even better?
So, come on. Go out there and just fail fast so you can succeed quickly.